When I first heard the term “fuckboy” – I thought it was a little harsh. I mean, I get that some guys can be players, some can be assholes, and some can be selfish (all one of the same really), but “fuckboy” – I mean, wow. Then I thought about what women are called, “slut”, “skank”, “LovePeddler,” and came to the realization that these so called ‘gentlemen’ needed (at least) one name to settle the score. Enter, the appreciation of “fuckboy.”
What is a “fuckboy”? Let’s start by breaking down the word. The word “Bleep” is an English word, an obscene word which refers to the act of sexual intercourse and is also commonly used to denote disdain of a person, and a “boy” is a male child. Not a man. So a “fuckboy” is an obscenely behaved male child. Sounds about right.
On Urban Dictionary, the definitions are sparse and somewhat frightening. They range from “A manipulating dick who does whatever it takes to benefit him, regardless of who he screws over,” to “the lowest possible form of the vile, degenerate waste pouring from the proverbial asshole of society.” According to Pacific Standard, a “fuckboy” “is not a dating style [or necessarily single guy] so much as a worldview that reeks of entitlement but is aghast at the prospect of putting in effort.”
Ultimately, a “fuckboy” is a guy who doesn’t respect women. At their worst they are narcissistic tools who refer to women by previously-mentioned unflattering terms, at their best they are guys who make you feel like you owe them something you can’t quite put your finger on, while insisting to others you aren’t exclusive… we have all been there. Anyway, I digress. The main thing you need to hear: stay the f*ck away from the “fuckboy.”
Here is how to spot one of these assholes from afar!
HE IS FORWARD
At the beginning, this good looking charmer is forward, insistent and irresistible. As you get further down the road, you will realize that he behaves this way with every girl he meets, but when you voice displeasure with said behavior, (after making you feel a little crazy), he will tell you exactly what you want to hear: “You are over-thinking it, I would never want anyone but you.” Oh he will.
HE IS OBSESSED WITH SOCIAL MEDIA
This guy is ALL about his image. He untags photos on Facebook that feature you, or any girl in particular. On Instagram, he follows a bunch of Insta-models and likes all their photos, just in case. Snapchat, he requests you download immediately upon meeting, and proceeds to make you feel like you owe him sexy pictures. To top it all off, if you go anywhere near his phone you are out – and deep down you know why.
HE PUTS IN VERY LITTLE EFFORT
Firstly, (if he doesn’t blow you off) he only wants to go out with you during the work week – weekends are a no go. Secondly, he always texts and never calls you, expecting you to be the one that constantly follows up. Thirdly he never shows you affection in public unless no one is around, and finally, he booty calls you late at night. The sneaky way a “fuckboy” booty calls, though, is to make you feel like you are in a relationship with him, so the booty call is your choice, too.
HE CAN’T DEFINE WHAT YOU ARE
When you are dating a real “fuckboy,” you always feel like you are on the cusp of ‘the talk’, but months go by and you are definitely no way near being his girlfriend. Although you have no idea about the amount of women in his life, when you finally do bring up enough courage to talk relationship (after desperately hoping you won’t scare him off) – he reveals that he “doesn’t believe in labels.” You deserve better!
HIS FRIENDS ARE THE SAME
A group of great-looking charmers who are all “best mates” and treat girls like poo? Run.